Let us consider two oppositely charged particles at A and B and two more packets of like and unlike charges, together at C and D representing the group of friends of A and B respectively. Let E and F represent the concerned societies, so that they maintain the equilibrium between the charges A and B, which represent a Boy and a Girl respectively.
O- Null/Neutral point A-Boy B-Girl
C & D –Their friends E and F – The societies
The above figure shows the “ideal equilibrium state” of the boy and the girl-between and also with their friends and also mutually with the societies. The relation between them, only at the equilibrium state is termed as “friendship”. The required separation is achieved due to the other charges or factors.
If this equilibrium is lost, then the following two possibilities are expected,
© The charges A and B will move away i.e. the friendship will break
Or
© The charge A and B will come closer i.e. the friendship will turn into love which may ultimately lead to marriage.
The repulsion Theory of Breaking of Friendship:
© The major factor which disturbs the equilibrium is “the friends”. If they become jealous of them or start doubting them of if they provoke /misguide/mislead them to hate each other.
© All of a sudden, if the society becomes very strict, then it will be very crucial for them to maintain the relation at equilibrium.
© However another chance of, they becoming doubtful about themselves, is also expected.
All the three reasons mentioned above will inturn develop some kind of like charges in any one or in both of them which will result in repulsions. Ultimately the friendship will break.
Balancing at the Repulsion:
© If they, themselves train them to overcome all disturbances and to neglect the “barking dogs” or by discussing with them, first case can be overcome.
© Here they have to be very careful as they are dealing with a mass of people. It’s only their friends who can help them, to avoid the second case.
© No solution for the third case, except “direct and open discussion of misunderstanding or doubts, with the other.
The Attraction theory of Unsaturated Love:
© When they know more and more of each other, their “state of mentality” may change. This increases the charges by a slighter amount. Once the charge increases, they get more and more attracted.
The increase in charge happens due to,
Admiring one another on realising their real worth
Feeling pity at the other’s problems
By showing too much of concern to one
Physical attraction
© When their friends encourage/ provoke them, from one side or both the sides.
If same numbers of friends start encouraging and discouraging at a time, no direct effect will be observed, still an oscillating state may occur, as they may encounter a confused state of mind.
© If the society loosens the control or strictness on them.
All the three cases mentioned above will increase the charges, which will result in attraction. Mostly it is referred to be love. But it should note that all attractions do not lead to “perfect love”. Many other possibilities are also expected.
Balancing at the attraction:
© The first case discussed above can be overcome up to a certain extent, if the society and friends give the required moral support to them.
© If they themselves develop enough moral power to overcome the disturbances.
© It is regarded as a very hard task to overcome the third case, as the greatest charge is suddenly losing the control over them. They have to struggle maximum for balancing else it will surely lead to collision.
The law of Angles:
If the parallelism between the controlling factors is suddenly disturbed due to unknown reasons, the two charges may result in collapse with a certain angle namely-“the angle of collision”, resulting in the disturbance of “the normal friendship”
There is a particular angle for which the collision leads to absolute friendship, the corresponding angle is termed as angle of absolute friendship. If they collide in an angle lesser than this, it will lead to the breakage of the friendship. And if the angle is greater than this, then it will lead to infatuation or love. The angle at which absolute love is achieved is called the absolute angle of love.
The Theory of Absolute friendship:
The extreme state of friendship can be referred as the state at which the two charges are so close to each other such that the separation is infinitely small, within their state of true friendship.
At this state-any change in the charge will simultaneously effect the other due to, their infinite closeness. Due to their ‘togetherness’ for a longer time interval-a similar kind of charge develops in them, which inturn nullifies the opposite charges/thoughts in them, and they become like charges. But ‘the repulsion of the like charges’- can not be observed. They start to share everything between them and even the sex distinction vanishes between them at this state of relation-due to the nullified charges.
It’s a deviation from the actual laws of electrostatics.
A few more things:
If both the charges increase/decrease at a time the effect will be more and the time required will be less.
If friendship breaks and a small enemity starts, due to any misunderstanding, it can be referred as-‘Confused Momentary State (CMS). It is a special case of the charges where they are momentarily similarised to repel each other!!.
Absolute friendship is the one where ‘any change in the system does not alter their relation’, as there is no chance of any misunderstanding. (They discuss everything openly, and nothing matters their friendship). Hence even a CMS is not possible at this state.
At this state though the separation is negligible, we are not allowed to approximate it to zero. It is zero only in the case of love-more specifically ‘absolute love’.
The absolute love or absolute friendship always occurs along the null points or neutral points of the above model.
Well, here I have tried to discuss the most divine relationship in the human world-Friendship, with some basic scientific facts. Though it’s illogical to compare science and emotions, for the analogy here I have given an analogy of electrostatics. I have tried to refer all my ideas with in the limit of the context, definitions, laws and scope of the topic. Anyway there may be many exceptions and there is no special reason to mention girl as a negative charge.
The best state of any human relationship is the absolute friendship, it is also the most crucial one-both to achieve and maintain. Whatever the relation it may be –maintain it at its absoluteness. Yeah, if you can’t follow the above discussed things- discuss it with your absolute friend…. J
Note: According to the laws of electrostatics,
Charges can nether be created, nor be destroyed
Like charges repel and unlike charges attract.
Lesser the distance, the more is the attraction or repulsion.
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